Next Steps

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Thank you for making an enquiry. The next steps are as follows:

Pay Deposit

If I have confirmed that I have your date available, the next thing you should do is pay a £30 deposit to secure the date on my side. You can use PayPal with “” or direct bank transfer to account number: 30209767 and sort code: 950679.

There is no obligation on your part however - and if, after our first meeting, you would rather not proceed with me as your celebrant, simply let me know and I will happily refund your deposit.

I’ve secured my date, what next?

The next step is to arrange a meeting at a mutually convenient time and place. Ideally this should take place between 12 and 6 months before the wedding, as it is not possible to give notice to the registrar more than 12 months before the intended date.

The purpose of the meeting is to discuss the ceremony options and any specific ideas you may have. For example you may wish to think about:

  • Whether you will have background music for guests arriving and waiting for the start of the ceremony?

  • Whether anyone will be “giving the bride away”?

  • Whether you will have music for the processional, during the signing of the marriage documents and/or for the recessional?

  • Would you like any readings or addresses, and who you would like to present these?

  • Have you thought about your marriage and ring vows and whether you would like to use traditional or contemporary ones, or even write your own? *

  • Have you thought about including “lighting the Unity Candle” or any other elements? *

  • Have you thought about who your legal witnesses will be?

  • Are there any religious elements you would like included such as prayers, blessings or hymns?

  • Is there anything you definitely don’t want?

* Please see here for a sample ceremony outline and examples of vows and unity candle ceremony etc.

At this meeting I will also give you the signed legal paperwork which you will need to complete and send on to the registrar. (see below)

I’ve had my meeting, what next?

After our meeting, you will need to send the completed paperwork to the district registrar as soon as possible, along with any supporting documents such as birth certificates etc.

The forms need to be sent to the registrar of the district where the ceremony will be taking place. This is called “giving notice”. (The venue does not need to be licensed if I am officiating)

Having received your notice forms, the registrar will perform the necessary checks and then produce a Schedule of Marriage document. This document must be collected in person a maximum of seven days before the ceremony by either the bride or the groom. The Schedule of Marriage is then signed on the day of your wedding by yourselves, two witnesses (anyone over the age of 16) and by me. This makes the ceremony legal.

I’ve sent in my notice forms, what next?

You can now take your time with finalising the details of the ceremony such as readings, deciding on vows, selecting music etc. Don’t worry if you don’t hear from me during this time, but please feel free to get in touch at any stage if you need any help or advice.

About a month before the wedding I will send you a checklist so I can finalise the script for the day with the correct vows and readings etc.

When do I pay the balance?

The balance is payable at any stage after our first meeting, up to and including the day of the ceremony itself. As before, you can use PayPal with “” or direct bank transfer to account number: 30209767 and sort code: 950679.

The amount will be £135 for week day ceremonies or £200 for weekend/public holidays - less the £30 deposit. In some cases there will also be travel expenses, but these will have been agreed upon at the outset.

Throughout the process, you are of course welcome to ask any questions or if you need any advice along the way. We can stay in touch by email on, or you can contact me by phone on 07854286216.

I look forward to playing my part in the celebration of your wedding day.

Kind regards,

Steve Ames